What Do I Do When He...Intro

Every day I get bombarded with questions about what to do when men do what they do. A lot of the questions I see over and over again, so I decided to answer each of them. Keep reading to learn more about this new blog series.

Remember when you were a little girl on the playground - and little Johnny would pull your pigtails, or push you down? Maybe he even called you names... And what were we always told "Oh Johnny does that because he has a crush on you!" and we lapped it up like ice cream on a hot day. This is when the lies start - we become programmed to believe that if a guy treats us badly it is because he cares so much that he can't properly express it.

If you have read a romance novel lately, or even skimmed through the titles and general plots of them you'll notice a trend. This trend just reinforces all the garbage that we have been fed. In these stories we will be swept off our feet, or be the one to get the married man to leave his wife, or the worst ones: that we can be the one to fix a bad boy through nothing more then the power of our love. Looking at the bestsellers in romance novels today there are several themes in the top 25:

* bad boy redemption
* fake relationship turned real love
* enemies to lovers
* falling in love with/marrying your boss

​Here are just a handful of the top titles on Amazon right now - see a trend?

Media, movies, books - they all feed us these unrealistic expectations and fantasies... tease us just enough to make us think that it is possible. And when it falls apart they teach us that WE are the ones that have failed. We seek help from twin flame coaches, psychics, tarot readers and more... all to learn what we did wrong and how we can fix it. Well, guess what? Most of the time it is NOT our fault (at least not entirely) so I wanted to look at a number of situations that pop up and explore them in more detail. Think of all the lines you have heard from friends (or even said to yourself)

• "He's just going through some stuff"
• "He likes me too much and doesn't know how to deal with it"
• "He is intimidated by me"
• "He's just getting out of a serious relationship"
• "He's never HAD a serious relationship"
• "He just needs someone like me to help him change"
• "Being in any relationship is better then being alone"
• "He said he would leave his wife and we will be together"
• "He only gets so mad because he is so in love with me"
• "He's just not ready for marriage yet"
• "Dating the boss is sooo romantic"
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So over the next couple of months I am going to be answering some of your questions in the form of a blog post.  Currently I have posts planned for roughly a dozen situations. The topics so far are: 

1. What do I do when he won't marry me?
2. What do I do when he gets volatile?
3. What do I do when he breaks up with me?
4. What do I do when he ghosts me?
5. What do I do if he is my boss (or co-worker)?
6. What do I do if he is already married?
7. What do I do when it is a long distance thing?
8. What do I do when he doesn't text me back?
9. What do I do if he is my twin flame and he is resisting?
10. What do I do if he is intimidated by me?
11. What do I do when he is sleeping with someone else?

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